On Our Best Behavior
On Our Best Behavior is a heartwarming podcast where Mom, Kelli and 16-year-old son, Maccoy delve into the complexities of school, life's struggles, highs and lows, and various challenges. With a blend of humor and sincerity, they navigate through these topics while sharing their own experiences and insights. Their conversations are not only relatable but also enlightening, offering listeners a fresh perspective on everyday issues. Alongside their engaging discussions, they welcome intriguing guests, adding a dynamic element to each episode. Tune in to join this duo on their journey of growth, learning, and discovery.
On Our Best Behavior
We're going to the fair whether our wallets like it or not
What happens when you combine a prodigal bunny's homecoming, Minnesota State Fair planning, and a first-time psychic experience? This episode delivers a perfect blend of everyday chaos and profound reflection that will have you nodding along one minute and contemplating life's bigger questions the next.
When Kelli welcomes guest host Emily to the podcast, their natural chemistry immediately shines through as they trade stories about everything from the dramatic return of a runaway bunny named Dixie to their detailed strategy for conquering the Minnesota State Fair. Their fair planning conversation—complete with debates about church bus shortcuts and the merits of personal cooling fans—captures that uniquely Midwestern determination to enjoy summer traditions despite rising costs and practical challenges.
The conversation takes several delightful detours, including Emily's experience at a Savannah Bananas baseball game (described as "the Harlem Globetrotters of baseball"), candid discussions about physical comfort in public spaces, and an unexpectedly deep dive into the HBO show "Hunting Wives." Their willingness to embrace both the ridiculous and the profound makes for a listening experience that feels like eavesdropping on two friends who've forgotten anyone else is in the room.
Perhaps most compelling is Emily's reflection on her first psychic reading as she approaches the one-year anniversary of losing her close friend Patrick. Her honest account of seeking connection beyond the physical realm resonates whether you're a believer or skeptic. The episode concludes with a gentle wisdom about grief—that perhaps those we've lost aren't constantly watching over us but are "living their own life now," allowing us permission to continue ours.
Subscribe to hear more authentic conversations that seamlessly blend everyday observations with life's bigger questions, all delivered with warmth, humor, and zero pretension.
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Welcome back to On Our Best Behavior. It's season 4, episode 30, which means we've officially made more episodes than the number of houseplants I've managed to keep alive. Today I've got a special guest host, emily. She's smart, hilarious and possibly regretting saying yes to this already. So grab your coffee, buckle up and remember best behavior is more of a loose guideline around here, hey, emmy.
Speaker 2:What's up.
Speaker 1:How are you Good? I don't know if I've ever kept a house plant alive.
Speaker 2:I've never. I literally have a outdoor hanging plant that has been dead for two years that I just have not taken off the hook on my deck. My sister was like how long has that been dead? I'm like you don't want to know invested in this guy from home goods last year it's fake.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, it looks wonderful. Can't find a good spot for it, but no, it won't die.
Speaker 2:You know it won't die. Also, you know your animals won't eat it. True, anytime I've ever gotten flowers, I have to put them on top of my refrigerator to prevent hank from getting them. Um, he now tries to climb on top of the refrigerator to get them. So he does what he wants all the time living his best life.
Speaker 1:He sure is speaking of animals eating plants. I know that you haven't listened to the latest episode yet not yet no but when mackie and I were recording the last episode, uh-huh that dogs were going crazy. And finally I'm like mackie, go see what the dogs are barking at. Yeah, there was a guy at her door with dixie in a live trap she's in the backyard, dixie's back. She's been and she's back there.
Speaker 1:Still since Monday there, since Monday it's Thursday she spent the night in here on Monday night, but then Tuesday I bought more um of those no dig fence things, and now she's still out there wow, damn it, dixie.
Speaker 2:I damn it, dix. I thought she was a goner for good, like just living her free life. It's not the same guy that you were working with. No, this is a brand new guy.
Speaker 1:Because I said do you know who the guy was? Because I didn't go out there, I didn't think anyone was at the door. I didn't hear like the ring doorbell or anything, and so he's like ah, I don't know, wasn't that?
Speaker 2:guy yeah, yeah. So anyway, damn it dixie sidebar, damn it dixie's home and she's been sweet.
Speaker 1:The other girls tried to beat her up at first.
Speaker 2:Very cute when they saw her, they like wanted to fight, but now they're all. Where have you been, friends?
Speaker 1:yeah, like bitch, you don't live here.
Speaker 2:No more why. You were too good for us. One of the real housewives episodes that I watch of, like this awkward entrance.
Speaker 1:Oh, we've been talking crap about you for weeks and now you show up and we're like oh, and my wild bunny, like he's still out, he or she is still out there, and I think she saw him and was like, oh, wild bunny, cause that's who she's been hanging out within the hood. Yeah, so they're buddies.
Speaker 2:It all worked out. You know what She'll. Who knows what will happen with her?
Speaker 1:That's why she's damn it, Dixie. So tell me what life is like now that you are a college graduate times I don't know how many times.
Speaker 2:Once.
Speaker 1:Okay, now that you are officially a college graduate, how is life? You had a big party.
Speaker 2:I did. A lot of people came. It was a big party for not just me, it was for my nephew, my sister, my sister and her husband and my parents. So it was kind of it's a big year for a lot of us in in our family. So we did a big party um cousins that I haven't seen in forever came friends you jen, caleb, laura um sam and leah like bunch of it was fun when it was.
Speaker 1:It was fun when all the friends were there. Yeah, yeah, because I don't think we've ever all mingled together no I don't, but it still was a good match, yeah it's like it's.
Speaker 2:You know, I've always we've talked about this before of like I have friends here, friends here sprinkled and stuff, but I'm trying to like get it all you've never really meshed anyone no, I've never had like a core friend group.
Speaker 2:It's one person here, one person there, kind of thing. But yeah, it was. It was wonderful. I hate those types of events, though, because I always feel like I never pay enough attention to who who is there. I said I don't know if I told you this, but I was like I never want a big wedding because I'm gonna spend the entire time worrying. Did I give too much attention to one person and not enough to another? Like that's just me and I don't. I don't like it, but weather was great, food was good.
Speaker 2:I ate off of tacos chicken tacos for like a week after they're good and that cake, which I know you didn't like the cake because I had cream cheese in the middle, but did you eat the cookies?
Speaker 1:yeah, they were okay. People were raving about them, yeah, so I like you know me, I'm like they're going to be the best cookie I ever had. It was good. Oh, my aunt the mint threw me off.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's. I think it's the secret. It's my mom, my parents' best friends make them and my aunt thinks they're the greatest thing in the world. So they're good, but good. But caleb loved them, yeah, I.
Speaker 1:Yeah, a lot of people did this is what I wanted to decide. I've been looking this up, oh so this is what I want to tell you about you feeling like you're not spending enough time with people at your party and at your wedding. But, as one of the greatest people to ever live has said, think of your energy as if it's expensive. It's a luxury item not everyone can afford it.
Speaker 2:Hey, sam sent me that same quote today actually, and I was like, yeah, she's, she's, she's pretty, she's pretty great. Yeah, she, I haven't watched her thing yet, but talking about taylor swift, yeah, if you didn't figure that out already.
Speaker 1:I don't know how many people that listen to this are actually swift? Probably none. Fast forward yep, yep. I mean, I am just excited that the color is orange. Oh yeah, that listen to this are actually Swifties?
Speaker 2:Probably none, I feel like it's just you and me Fast forward. Yep, yep. I mean, I am just excited that the color is orange oh yeah, it's my favorite color.
Speaker 1:So I'm not invested enough about like the clues and all those things. I'm like you know what, when it happens I'll know and whatever. But I just love her and I love love. I just want her to be in love. Yep, and they seem really happy and cute together. And you know, as somebody who has, uh, been a show girl and made my life the way I wanted it to look versus what reality was.
Speaker 1:Uh, I hope it's true and I know you haven't watched it yet, but one of the things that she said is like when she first found out that Travis wanted to date her. She's like is this guy crazy? Well, you know, like blah, blah, blah. And then she's like and then I thought to myself this is what I've been writing and hoping for my whole life.
Speaker 2:This is my fairy tale, yeah, my whole life.
Speaker 1:Yes, this is my fairy tale, yeah.
Speaker 2:He's pining after her, he's wanting to win her over, and they're both supportive of each other.
Speaker 1:And I think, like another really great thing about them is like they're not young. No Right, you know when you're 35, like you've been through the bullshit, you've played the games. Yep, you know what's important.
Speaker 2:Yep, you know who you are, what you want exactly. So I'm just, I just hope that it's a happy and happy ending, I know, and I just I feel bad that they're stalked everywhere. Yeah, I know it comes with the territory of their relationship, but let them live their life.
Speaker 1:Let them live. Respect that, yes, because it's about respect like I enjoy them from afar. I don't need to know every little detail about if I saw them on the street, no, but like, let's just say, nobody noticed that they were there and I did like I would just appreciate them from afar and let them do their thing.
Speaker 2:Be I.
Speaker 1:That's just how I feel about however, if you see me on the street and you want to do a picture or autograph or anything, please, please approach, because my fan base is much smaller than taylor.
Speaker 2:I think Mackie and me are your number ones.
Speaker 1:Well, mackie, he's the show, it's not me.
Speaker 2:I disagree.
Speaker 1:I used to always tease him. If somebody was honking in traffic he'd be like what are they honking for? I'm like oh, they probably know us from the podcast Wave. And he believed me. And I'm like McCoy, that's not true, you can't see faces.
Speaker 2:But it's not true. Hey, you know what?
Speaker 1:Whatever makes him believe All right. So your grad party overall was a success it was.
Speaker 2:It was a success. I'm in the middle of the book that you got me.
Speaker 1:I was going to say what was your favorite gift from your grad party.
Speaker 2:Honestly, it wasn't even a gift. It was Miles's art. So my nephew is an artist and he's going to MCAD.
Speaker 1:What does MCAD stand for? Do you know?
Speaker 2:I don't know if it's Minnesota or Minneapolis College of Art and Design oh, okay.
Speaker 1:I was going to Google it, but you were on there.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's down in Minneapolis and so kind of near uptown areas where he'll be living. He moves next week. Oh my God.
Speaker 1:I know it's crazy that it's already the middle of August.
Speaker 2:I know, I know.
Speaker 1:It's crazy.
Speaker 2:So he was giving away all of his old art.
Speaker 1:He was cleaning his room All of his not good quote unquote not good art.
Speaker 2:Yeah, not good quality art. And me I just roll my eyes because anything he does I think it's amazing. And so I have it up at my desk and it's just this like different colored Andy Warhol looking type of picture with different plants and stuff like that. And even someone at work was like, is that like a knockoff Andy Warhol? And I was like, yeah, done by my 19 year old nephew.
Speaker 1:So anything from him I always, I always cherish. I was going to take art, but I'm like you know what, I'm just going to wait and see what's left so other people can take it.
Speaker 2:There was nothing left, nothing left, so it was pretty cool. And he's like, oh, I don't want anything for it.
Speaker 1:And people were paying him and he's like why?
Speaker 2:And I'm like because you're an artist Like Sam was like our. We don't not pay artists like yeah. He's like oh, okay, it was just he's just, he's the greatest kid. Very modest, very modest miles.
Speaker 1:If you're listening to this, I want you on the podcast for an episode yes, I need to bring that. I'm gonna message him. I just. It's one of those things where I think about it and I think well, I think I did it because I thought about it, but then I never did it.
Speaker 2:And then you realize you went and cooked something in the kitchen instead or took a shower. Yeah, it happens to me all the time.
Speaker 1:And then like a week goes by and I'm like oh, I didn't do that, I thought about doing it, and then that's as far as it went. So you have been a busy lady, you've been to apparently we were talking about. Like, what are we going to talk about? And I'm like you've did this, you've done this, you've done this, you've done this, like let's talk about. We haven't really even talked about it in person together, so I'm like don't even tell me we're going to talk about it on the show.
Speaker 2:It's such a blur of like what I've been doing. I went to a Savannah Bananas game. It was the party animals versus the Texas tailgaters. That was, which is baseball. Baseball, it is harlem globetrotters of baseball essentially, and it was at chs field and it was an insane experience. It was so much fun.
Speaker 2:Um, better than a saints game, yes, because, like, players are interacting with you in the stands and there's other things. It's, it's and they do. You know, like they get points for trick plays, like you know if they can do a somersault and then catch the ball that was in the air from a hit, or someone, um from the Texas tailgaters goes on stilts and he hits a ball on stilts. And you know, unicycles. It's a show. I mean, it is actual baseball too.
Speaker 2:The rules are different, but we got some, you know, vip tickets. I don't know I got them through um leah. She's on their fan club, so it's really hard to get. There's like three million people on their waiting list. So if you're part of their fan club, and the longer you've been a part of it, the better access you get to these types of things. And so we did like a meet and greet with the players beforehand and then did the game, everything like that, and then they take pictures with fans for an hour after they're very did you get your picture taken with that guy's butt that you liked?
Speaker 1:no, I just kept taking pictures of his butt.
Speaker 2:Oh, that's a lot of butt pictures. It was delightful. I took pictures for everybody else. Hi, I didn't know you were such a butt girl. I'm not usually Like arms are like my thing in guys. For some reason.
Speaker 1:Cats are mine.
Speaker 2:That butt man. It was like perfect, it was popping.
Speaker 1:It was a big handful. Yes, it was a big yeah. Oh yeah, butts gross me out, but like, if they're cute with no hair, no, no, with like clothes on, like I don't want to see it naked. I don't want to see it naked either, but if it's cute, in like a nice pair of jeans, yeah, or baseball pants, you know. Yeah, or baseball pants yeah, they're tight.
Speaker 2:Yeah, no, I was the picture taker for most of the pictures they went with, you know the players and stuff. I just I don't know, I wasn't feeling myself look wise and so I hate when that happens, like I'm just like I don't want to see myself in pictures right now I'll be the one with the camera and then I'll stare at the guys from afar.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they probably all smile and wave a lesbian because I wasn't smoothing over them, or anything like that well, you could have gave them like little kissy face or a little lip lick. I was not feeling myself at all. It was hot as hell. I was so bloated yeah.
Speaker 1:It would have been funny. What do you have to?
Speaker 2:lose. I know I need to get better at that.
Speaker 1:You probably had some drinks in you. Not really, no, I only had two drinks.
Speaker 2:Okay, you had some drinks in you Two drinks in like an eight-hour span. Oh man, I really didn't. It was hot. I did have the best nachos ever. Tell me about them.
Speaker 1:Was it like the cheese from the machine. No, okay.
Speaker 2:It was like real good queso and homemade tortilla chips. It's a stand.
Speaker 1:Oh, I love homemade tortilla chips.
Speaker 2:It's just a small stand kind of in the corner at CHS Field and you can get shredded beef, pork or chicken. I got chicken. I was going to say let me guess I was going to get pork. Pork is good. I do love it. That's what I get at Chipotle is pork, and then it was homemade tortilla chips and a cheese sauce. You don't get steak, no.
Speaker 1:At the Chipotle? No.
Speaker 2:Is it a texture? The steak's not a texture thing. I just it's not my goat, it's not something I. I don't even get steak at taco bell. No, that's not real. That steak's not real kind of freaks me out like it's rubbery you can't get.
Speaker 1:You can't get steak at taco bell no, I don't.
Speaker 2:I get their new roasted.
Speaker 1:You get the white, I get the white poultry. I don't call it chicken sorry the white poultry.
Speaker 2:Um no, I don't know I've. Sorry the white poultry, I don't know. I've never really thought about it. I just always go towards the white meat, literally and figuratively.
Speaker 1:Wow, but they had homemade queso on it pico, was it dumped on there or did you get a dipping cup? No, it was dumped on there.
Speaker 2:It didn't get soggy. No, it was like a beautiful tray of nachos handed to you in this composable, compostable.
Speaker 1:Did you see other people with the nachos first and you're like where did they get that?
Speaker 2:No, there weren't a lot of people there, we got let in super early.
Speaker 1:VIPs yeah, apparently, people there in the very we got let in super early um because of the vips.
Speaker 2:Yeah, apparently, apparently and, um, we were walking around and we were looking like, oh, this actually kind of looks good, kind of sounds good, and so all of us ordered from it. So there's like six of us sitting on the ground in the corner eating nachos and we're like, how the hell are we getting up? We're all in fat.
Speaker 1:This ain't gonna work, but I would go back there just for those nachos the food at that field is always good and the beer, yes, what did they have the beer? Like the craft beer section open.
Speaker 2:I love that yes, they did, and like very decently priced too. That's the other thing, I think field I think it was just it's just telling me I need to exercise, um my apple watch went off, um no, I think it was just it's just telling me I need to exercise, um my apple watch went off, um no, I think it's just. It's cheaper, it's good quality, like and I like chs field because it's intimate they have different things there too.
Speaker 2:It's not just the same old, same old yeah, and you know the max is like 7 000 people, so it didn't feel insanely crowded.
Speaker 1:It felt crowded because it was sold out, but it was oh, it was fun but it's fun when it's busy yeah, I, I enjoy lines, but yeah, I feel like there's so many options that you're there's not a lot of long there weren't a ton of lines.
Speaker 2:There's certain stands that always, like at the fair, have the big lines, but yeah, it wasn't too bad. Speaking of the fair, oh, I'm so excited. I just got so hungry, I know talking about all this food, it's dinner time. Oh, I want some cheese curds those.
Speaker 1:So the cheese curds that we had at the mini state fit the mouth are so fucking good that line is always long, but worth it.
Speaker 2:It's worth it, it goes.
Speaker 1:Really, this is what you have to do. You have to get a drink, then get in line. Yes, then you finish your drink while you're waiting in line and then it's time for the cheese curds to get it.
Speaker 2:We'll do that. We're going the first tuesday. Yep, we are going that first tuesday, all day thing. I'm going on thursday, I think.
Speaker 1:My sister hasn't confirmed but I think natalie we're going on friday night the first. You guys always go the first friday, we don't. We used to always go the first, the day opening day, but now I take the whole week following week off of work, so we're gonna go friday night. That'll be fun because that we like the nightlife, and then we're gonna go tuesday. I might go, it depends.
Speaker 2:I have to look at my cash flow to be honest, I know that's the thing I'm budgeting right now. Okay, how much fun am I gonna have if I don't spend a? Then maybe I'll go a third time. But I'm also going to Lincoln Park that Wednesday. Apparently, I am just a social butterfly.
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Speaker 2:No, my sister does not go to the fair. Natalie went last year for the first time with her very best friend. She went on the hottest day that you and Mackie went to.
Speaker 1:Oh it was real hot.
Speaker 2:I almost said it was terrible, but it's the fair, it's the fair, so it can be hot and gross but it's not terrible, and so usually the first day is kind of the slower day because it's not before labor, it's not the week before Labor Day, so people are still working and it's in the middle of the week.
Speaker 1:Don't you feel like I've ever been there on opening day? I feel like it's a busy because a lot of people like take that first day off of work to go and then they just take a long weekend and take Friday off.
Speaker 2:I don't remember if I don't remember if I've been there on opening day or not. I don't know. My sister thinks it's going to not be as busy, so we're.
Speaker 1:I don't think you can tell the difference. It's a hundred thousand people there, or one hundred and seventy five thousand.
Speaker 2:No, you can't tell the difference.
Speaker 1:So that one time we were there, remember, it seemed really, really busy and it was like a world that's. Yeah, it was Sunday of.
Speaker 2:Labor Day weekend last year it was like insane, wasn't it like a million people or something? I don't even know it wasn't a million, no, but it felt like it. Yeah, I don't. That's the one time of year I don't get annoyed with crowds and I was getting overstimulated, and normally with the fair I'm like, yep, I can handle this, but so we're going to go that Tuesday we're going to take our sweet ass time.
Speaker 1:You're going to laugh at me and make fun of me because I bought a fan. Oh fuck, I can't believe you did that.
Speaker 2:I am out of shape.
Speaker 1:You would text me and you're like thank you for not judging me. And I'm like oh girlfriend, I probably did judge you.
Speaker 2:in my mind it is not the one that goes around your neck. I sent you the link.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's a handheld. That's fine. You're gonna like put it in your purse and pull it out when you get high. I bought it I bought it.
Speaker 2:A backpack. Oh, jesus christ, you have one. A what of the front? Oh, yeah, yeah, a slingback, okay. Yes, I bought a slingback, okay, so it'll hold my water.
Speaker 1:I thought you were saying you bought like a lanyard for your fan. It comes with one. Of course it does. That's where I got the idea. I probably saw it in the link.
Speaker 2:No, I bought a swing back so I can like bring my water bottle, because that's something I'm really trying to do is just drink more water, especially when it's so hot. Yeah, but between hormones and overweightness and just out of shapeness, I sweat a lot sometimes and it's so uncomfortable, yeah. So, yeah, I'm gonna be one of those people. At least I'm not breastfeeding and chugging a beer at the same time. I mean, there's that. I brought that up at work the other day and they were like what did you see?
Speaker 2:I was like full-on, boob out breastfeeding, which I support. I support all of the above, but at the same time. And then one of the doctors was like well, it doesn't go through the system that fast, so I guess she's not terribly wrong, just the optics are really bad.
Speaker 1:I'm like but the question is how was that her first drink, and and when was I mean, I guess, if that was the only time she was going to feed her baby, then maybe you know, maybe we're ignorant Could be, I will gladly say I'm ignorant in that situation.
Speaker 2:Just you do you yeah?
Speaker 1:I'm all about breastfeeding, but not I just yeah, don't be smoking a joint and don't be drinking a drink?
Speaker 2:No, it was a sight to see.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but you know I love a devil's advocate situation. Yes, I appreciate that and we were just talking about this before we started recording All the fucking food that we eat and all the shit that's in it. I mean that can't be good for anybody either. Or a baby. So there's that.
Speaker 2:I mean nothing in this country, I think is legitimately a hundred percent healthy unless, like you said, it comes from your garden.
Speaker 1:You pull it straight from the garden or like it's fresh from a farmer's market, from their fields two hours where I'm like rfk, let's go do something I don't know my nephew casey, you know he really struggles with uh, he doesn't do red dye and so, uh, we're like come on 2028. Is that when it's supposed to?
Speaker 2:happen where there's like no red dye in food yeah, I know, in California I think it's sooner, but I think by like 2028 or something like that speaking of which, whenever I order a product and it's like oh, you don't live in California, so you can have this Prop 65 cancer-causing item I'm like oh, what the fuck. Yeah, oh, just because my state allows it, still doesn't mean, I don't get access to the good stuff.
Speaker 1:However, you know, I think all the time like I'm probably going to die from like lung cancer from all the secondhand smoke I received as a child, I'll die from some sort of cancer. Before anything, that was self-induced, yep.
Speaker 2:I'm there. We talked about this last week, Like I'm pretty sure anything that I'm doing to my body now is not going to kill me, but anything that I'm predisposed to genetically or from exposure is going to get me first. How old is your mom? 70.
Speaker 1:I mean both your parents, your dad's younger. How old is your dad? 69, okay, I was gonna say both your parents made it to 70, so that's good my mom's body is someone of like 105 year olds, so does she listen?
Speaker 2:I don't.
Speaker 1:I don't know. She probably doesn't know how. I don't think she knows how Wendy didn't know how to watch New Heights, what I know. Youtube. Wendy, I told her because I'm like she's like I don't have a way to listen. How do you listen to music or podcast? And she's like I don't do you have Spotify or Pandora?
Speaker 2:Apple, music, android we just lost 50%, basically.
Speaker 1:But anyway, I'm like well, you told me during COVID you used to just turn on Taylor Swift and listen to it all day long yeah, what did you? Do. I'm like how did you do that? And she's like YouTube. I'm like that's how you fucking watch.
Speaker 2:New Heights. That's how you watch any podcast.
Speaker 1:Anyway.
Speaker 2:Oh, she shows her age sometimes.
Speaker 1:She's so invested, I love it, and then she like doesn't watch. She's like, well, I just watch the highlight reels.
Speaker 2:No, you can't do that.
Speaker 1:You can't be that much of a fan and only watch highlights no.
Speaker 2:Oh, wendy, wendy. Wendy she's something I love her.
Speaker 1:I love her too. She's a funny girl.
Speaker 1:Okay, so I finished Hunting Wives and Mackie, and I talked about this because he constantly said to me when he would come upstairs as I was watching this show mom, what are you watching? Like I promise I'm not watching girl on girl porn, but it's a train wreck and I can't stop. And so then he would start watching and I'm like we don't have to talk about it and I don't care if you watch it. Yeah, but don't judge me, I won't judge you. So anyway, I didn't read the book. You read the book. I read the book when it first came out. If you haven't finished it, it's a big spoiler. So shut it off if you don't want to hear what happens.
Speaker 2:I read the book when it first came out. Through Book of the Month, I want to say in like 2021, maybe 2020. I read it once. What's?
Speaker 1:the genre of the book.
Speaker 2:It's maybe 2020, it's. I read it once. What's the genre of the book? It's drama mystery. Okay, so to speak. It's not trying to like remember in detail, but I don't think it's as romanticized. I think it's fluffed a little bit for the show.
Speaker 1:What I want to know is okay, so let's talk about margo's character. You're you're talking book perspective, I'm talking show perspective. So her background is she grew up poor in the trailer park, like trying to figure out how to make money for her family and to pay her bills because her mom was a piece of shit. Yep, and so she meets her husband on, like whatever some dating app.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I can't remember On the internet and what is her angle where she's trying to like manipulate all these rich women, wives, and like have relations with them? And I just don't understand like what her angle, like why?
Speaker 2:I don't think they really Ever explain that?
Speaker 1:No, not that I can remember. It's like why is she having sex with that? I can remember like why is she having sex with callie and then why is she having sex with sophie? I?
Speaker 2:think. And then why is she having sex with?
Speaker 1:brad like, does she really like brad, or is it just like a really like taboo thing?
Speaker 2:I think part of it is taboo because it is in texas and it is in this area that you know you don't have an abortion you don't have an abortion, you don't have sex, you don't have an abortion. You don't have an abortion, you don't have sex. You don't have same-sex marriage like anything like that. So I think it's part of that and also I think a little bit is like discovering herself, like, from what I see, it's just she's still okay.
Speaker 1:So there's or why does she do it? Because she's, you know. Their marriage rule is like she can have sex with other women, yeah, but not other men, yeah, and then that's not considered. He's, the husband is okay with that. Okay, yeah, is that how it is in the book.
Speaker 2:Did they even talk about that? I'm trying to remember it was like five years ago.
Speaker 1:So anyway, she's just always like, and maybe that's just how she gets her rush, but she's doing everybody and she's going down on people too.
Speaker 2:Like she's not just the recipient. Yeah, she's not the receiver, she's the giver too. She's a giver too.
Speaker 1:I mean, it's both and she, you know they're drinking and they're shooting guns and they're snorting Adderall and I don't know what's going on. So I still like watch the whole show and I understand like how it ends and like that all makes sense, yeah, but there's just so many holes and so I'm hoping, like with season two, it fills a lot of that, I'm hoping with season two. They really I just didn't know if they answer any of the questions that I have in the book. No, not really.
Speaker 2:Books are always better than the show yes, they are, and they usually provide more detail. And I could be I have a terrible memory but I could be forgetting things but I think you know, hopefully with season two they dive more into her character and like understand her because she's one of the big characters is kyle the brother, a character in the book, I think so yes, that sounds familiar, I think yeah he doesn't die, though you don't remember.
Speaker 1:I don't remember. Okay, here's the thing, it's fine, I don't remember either.
Speaker 2:I can read books and then a year later I'm like did I read that? I think I read that. What?
Speaker 1:did I read? You know, my favorite Colleen Hoover book is Regretting you. And so this girl that I work with, this girl that I work with, I'm like she's like really like we've. She really liked Natasha Preston. And then, you know, when people are readers, then I'm like what are?
Speaker 2:you reading? I want to know what people are reading all the time. Yep, one of my RTs yesterday had an Abby Jimenez book and I was like I don't love romance but I like her books. She's like good to know. It's the first one I've read. She's good.
Speaker 1:She's good. You should really read Freda McFadden. I've never read a book of hers that has disappointed me. She read Ward D. I read that one. You should really try Colleen Hoover if you like that. But just know it's not just a mystery, but it is a lot of what the fuck's going on it is a mind game. So she read ugly love and she loved that one okay it's about.
Speaker 1:Are you sure? It's about like she's a flight. I think she's a flight attendant, yeah, pilot maybe. Okay, anyway, um, so I said, you know, once again, I'm like there's only one colleen hoover book I don't like, which is layla.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and every other one is good. I couldn't finish it.
Speaker 1:You didn't finish it. No, I can't, not, I can't. I'm not a DNF, because I need to know what happens.
Speaker 2:I could not. I'm so invested I could not finish it. It's so weird.
Speaker 1:But anyway, jay's home in, I'm in my life circle with Jay and Kate, so Jay just got home. If Jay made it home or not. Well, I said I wanted to be on there so I knew if he was at the boulevard. Oh, that's a good idea, so I knew he could go up there After work, if I was feeling like a drink, like, oh is Jay up there.
Speaker 2:That's a good idea, yeah.
Speaker 1:We don't. I don't really remember what it's about, but regretting you is my favorite. Colleen hoover, yes it's so then she's like do you remember? Well, like you have to tell me what's going on. But anyway, since she read that book, she's like I loved that book regretting you is one of my.
Speaker 2:I want to reread it now. Yeah, I kind of do too, because I tell me what's happening. Tell me what's happening pretty sure I read that one in 2020 or 2021 during. Covid, like it was yeah, but I can't even remember what I did last weekend most of the time.
Speaker 1:I mean, you remember what I do sometimes people be like did you read this? I'm like, let me look. It says I finished it, but I can't tell you about it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like I can tell you if I wasn't one of those you have memorable, have to it books. So when they said they were making a show out of it, I was kind of surprised because it wasn't wildly acclaimed or anything like that. Well, they put so much sex in it. I mean, it's almost a porno.
Speaker 1:That's what I've heard. I remember when I was on my honeymoon in Mexico, my then husband was having way too much fun partying with people he didn't know in the hot tub, and so I was like, oh, I'm just going to hang out in the hotel room. And I was like, oh, let's see what's on TV. And I remember I found some softcore porn, like thinking I'm going to get cranked up. And then he never came. I mean, I fell asleep before I ever came home.
Speaker 2:But anyway, hunting Wives was just like that. Yeah, I need to watch it. It's softcore porn. I mean both, why not? I mean?
Speaker 1:I know so, alright, here I am bad mom, but I told Mackie. I said here's the deal with this if you're gonna watch any kind of porn, girl on girl is the sexiest porn. Because I'm really sorry, I don't want to see man. Human body isn't really attractive, except for the calves, yes, or?
Speaker 2:the arms.
Speaker 1:And sometimes the butt with clothes on. Yeah, but girls are have a beautiful body. Yes, and I mean that in like a respectful way. Yes, absolutely, I can Not mine.
Speaker 2:Not mine but Margo. Yes, her body is booming on the show. I can appreciate a woman's body because I know how hard it is to keep a woman's body in shape. So when I see that I'm like god dang they are. They are really working hard to keep that body, especially the older you get.
Speaker 1:Yeah, when your hormones are so bad, like I think half my weight issues is like my endometriosis and I you know what I hate hormones I do too no, no, but I don't hate them in the way you do I hate how people blame their hormones for everything, because, sucks, our hormones are doing what they're supposed to do, not all we just don't like it, and a lot of times. Not always you people who are screaming at your radio right now, not always, but most of the time it's in our control to make it better get rid of my uterus.
Speaker 2:You don't want that. You're not ready for that and also with endometriosis, you being on my show.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's gonna. You're somebody's gonna be listening to this podcast and they're gonna be like emily, date me, date me, date me.
Speaker 2:Emily Right, yeah, right. But if I were to get a hysterectomy because my endometriosis affects my GI system so much, it doesn't go away, it's still there.
Speaker 1:You're still going to have bowels and then you're going to have your bladder's going to fall out.
Speaker 2:You're still going to have the issues. It's just there's. No, I don't wish it on anybody. Then the older I get and the worse my flare-ups get. Like it's just, it takes me out mentally and physically like my migraines are terrible. When that happens, like that, that can be very hormonally triggered yeah, like I'm, and I have not had my little puking episodes of migraines in a couple months, so are you on something?
Speaker 1:Are you doing something to change that from happening?
Speaker 2:I think my stress has changed.
Speaker 1:I know what it is. It's that you quit wearing underwear with leggings.
Speaker 2:It's so uncomfortable. I think it's because of my apron. It creates a pocket.
Speaker 1:I have an apron. I don't like this feeling. I when I wear underwear. I feel so like restricted. I feel protected.
Speaker 2:Let me tell you what I invested in a bidet attachment yes, you did, I was gonna, I when I okay, did you okay?
Speaker 1:did that? Did you use it? Did you give her a little squirty squirt?
Speaker 2:no, but I but you put it up real fast. Oh yeah, I wanted it. It came Wednesday, and when I came over on Friday it was off.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, it was up Wednesday night. You better believe it. But because I was at my brother's house on Monday and I used it, I'm like I'm fucking buying it, like every time I come over here.
Speaker 1:I love it, and so I bought one on Amazon. Was like 20 bucks, that's cheap, but anyway, when I put it in like it was like kind of going like yeah too. So then my brother was over here and I'm like hey, can you look at my bidet? Because I feel like it's going this way. And he was so cute. He's like okay, because I'm like yours hits perfect, so whatever you got going on like I needed to hit me in there.
Speaker 1:My brother, you know all the people have this conversation with our family's always been really open about stuff. So he's so cute. He comes out, he's like it's fixed. And I go how do you know? And he goes well, look at my shorts. When I when I tested it out, it shot me way over here. But when it got fixed it shot me right here and I'm like, yes, and then I used it and it hit me right in the right spot. I'm like, oh, only my brother knows the spot that's fucked up, I can't believe.
Speaker 2:I said that I'm not having DJ. I'm just gonna call you like Kelly. I don't know how to fix it. Yeah, but it would be really weird to have your brother come over to my apartment to fix my.
Speaker 1:I'm not volunteering him, but he's a nice guy. He might no no, it's more weird for me. I'm his sister.
Speaker 2:I've talked about this kind of stuff with my sisters and her husband.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but you don't have a brother, oh, her husband. I've talked about it with John.
Speaker 2:When Irene died I'm not kidding we all went up there, went to Aberdeen for the funeral. We all stayed in the same hotel. The four of us Danelle, kelly, john and myself all sat in a hot tub and we talked about everything Like our first times.
Speaker 1:Oh, you did. Yeah, you know what John and Kelly seem like the kind of people that wouldn't talk about that but they do, they do, they do.
Speaker 2:Danelle still to this day, I don't think, divulged as much information as she could have. But that's fine. Was she there? Yeah, oh, okay, that's fine, I mean, but I it's not what you're comfortable with. We were all. I was diarrhea of the mouth and you, I know right, I have zero filter.
Speaker 1:I just am trying to tell you that zero underwear with the leggings and the bidet and the pat pat, no toilet paper Life changing?
Speaker 2:How does it get rid of the swamp ass feeling, because that's what I have.
Speaker 1:Well, it sounds like you need a blow dryer in that one, then You've got to buy a smart toilet if you need the fan.
Speaker 2:I am a sweaty human, no one's going to date me now.
Speaker 1:They're probably like I got swampy balls. Yeah, let's mesh that shit together.
Speaker 2:It's not gross down there. It's just there's a lot of you know, I got hips. I got a lot of thigh Hips, don't lie, they don't. I got a lot of thigh. So like it's all, I don't know, I feel more safe in underwear.
Speaker 1:I'm just saying I think underwear locks in more sweat.
Speaker 2:See, and I feel so opposite. Do you ever okay?
Speaker 1:Yeah, tmi right now but like when it was really hot, like Thursday, yeah, and I went I had underwear on because I had shorts on that didn't have the built-in undies.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and.
Speaker 1:I really like the built-in undie shorts because I don't have underwear, yeah, anyway, when I went to the bathroom, like I pulled on my shorts and then my underwear, and they were full of sweat. Nope, it's so gross that doesn't ever happen to you. You don't get sweaty undies.
Speaker 2:No, but you're so sweaty there's a barrier. I don't know why, but I don't feel it that way when I'm wearing underwear.
Speaker 1:It doesn't get on your underwear. I didn't feel like they were going to be wet, and then they were wet.
Speaker 2:No, not really Like. On Friday it was hot as balls and anytime I went to the bathroom I was like oh yeah, no, I feel like I didn't feel moist.
Speaker 1:Sorry, I didn't feel like sweaty or swampy.
Speaker 2:No, not in that area, but my kneecaps were sweating.
Speaker 1:Some people want to swim with a face in the lake, so it's okay as Cardi B once said no, my kneecaps were sweating though.
Speaker 2:I was like this is disgusting, I'm telling you, and I take medication. No, my kneecaps were sweating though. I was like this is disgusting, I'm telling you, and I take medication too. I am doing everything in my control and I still can't help it. Fuck you, lexapro Does that make you sweat. Yes, yes, if you are in an.
Speaker 1:SSRI, I'm going to make you sweat till you bleed. I'm on an SSRI and I don't Everybody's different, but I'm cold all the fucking time.
Speaker 2:One of the big side effects for a lot of SSRIs is excessive sweating.
Speaker 1:I do sometimes sweat at night and I'm like well, I can't be in perimenopause because I'm still on birth control pills and you're still 29. And I'm still 29, 39, and plus 5. Not 49?, not 49, but close to 45.
Speaker 2:No, you're not, you just turned 44 I am not 44, 43, bitch asshole. I was thinking of my sister. I get your age and her.
Speaker 1:You thought I was still 36, yeah and then you aged me after I gave you a year of your life back.
Speaker 2:I get you and Danelle confused because you guys are a year apart and it just and remember she is always going to be older than me.
Speaker 1:Yes, yes, she's always going to be older and Kelly is always going to be younger than me.
Speaker 2:She's 40 on Tuesday, is that when you're going to the fair? No, thursday, yeah, she's 40 on Tuesday.
Speaker 1:Is that when you're going to the fair? No, thursday, yeah, she's 40 on Tuesday Is.
Speaker 2:Natalie going to the fair with you guys? Yeah, and I think she's going to bring her best friend again.
Speaker 1:Well, if Natalie gets to bring her best friend, you should get to bring your best friend. I told you. You said you're working, I am.
Speaker 2:You said she, I could call in sick.
Speaker 1:I mean, you are more than welcome to, because my sister asked if you were coming. Well, I was wondering if your sister was paying for natalie's friend if she'd pay for me.
Speaker 2:I mean, I'll pay for you. You're making it too easy. No, I mean, but yes, no, but um, yeah, she asked. She straight up, was like are you and kelly going on the opening day? And I was like I'm off, but I don't think kelly is. And then she's like, oh darn, you guys wouldn't want to go with us, would you? And I was like I will, I will, I can't speak for kelly.
Speaker 1:But it's fine, that's fine.
Speaker 2:It'll be good for you guys, it'll be fun yeah, I mean my sister's gonna freak when she knows how much I know about the fair, where things are located, what the best things are like.
Speaker 1:It is my personality, you are like a gps I really am I I love the fair, but in the fair I get turned around at the fair still, and you're my human gps of the of the minutes.
Speaker 2:You never get turned around. I know those grounds like the back of my hand, no I'm getting better.
Speaker 1:Now that I've been going three or four times, I've been getting better.
Speaker 2:Hopefully it's just two this year.
Speaker 1:My wallet will for you, I know, mine is already, mine is already yet have you bought your tickets yet? So wendy always gets me tickets for, like christmas.
Speaker 2:That's right, so I have three tickets I was gonna go to cub today or tomorrow, oh, fuck.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I usually do that too and get a blue.
Speaker 2:Do you want me to get you a blue book?
Speaker 1:sure, okay, it's only five bucks. Well, I'm gonna go anyway, because I gotta get. I always get arcade tickets or midway tickets.
Speaker 2:Oh, that's a good idea. I should get some midway tickets.
Speaker 1:I should get some midway tickets because they're discounted, and then tickets to get in are discounted a couple bucks.
Speaker 2:They have increased the price of the tickets. What is it Without discount? It's $20. It's $17 with discount. I saw it today and I about fell out of my chair.
Speaker 1:I was just complaining about the anoka county fair with discount it was, I think it was 15 or 16 last year yes, it was not this much. I already can't afford my life no way.
Speaker 2:I literally am like when am I ever gonna get out of this black cloud?
Speaker 1:you know what I think I heard? I think I heard you say you're going to pay for me to go to the fair on Thursday.
Speaker 2:If you come on Thursday, I will pay for your ticket. I can't.
Speaker 1:Over my ticket, not on my food.
Speaker 2:No, just in my drinks. We share everything I know.
Speaker 1:I always think I spend so much money there and I don't, and I'm glad I already bought my chicken sweatshirt so I don't need to worry about that.
Speaker 2:That saves you a couple. What $40? Yep, that's true. We have those $10 coupons for that place. Oh, can we?
Speaker 1:use them there.
Speaker 2:Yes, it's for that whole. It's that whole. I did keep mine. I just don't know where I10 rough.
Speaker 1:I just want to let you know I really love my wine and I really want a refill, but there is none. Isn't it delicious? And I also don't need a refill because I'm really filling it, yeah.
Speaker 2:But the Josh Pinot Grigio is delicious.
Speaker 1:I had the Josh when I was in Texas and it wasn't good. But I wonder if I had a red, because I had steak, you might have had a red.
Speaker 2:But the Pinot Grigio the rosé is.
Speaker 1:It's pretty good. Yeah, the rosé is good. I don't usually do rosé. I know you're not a rosé but their Pinot Grigio I really like it. Yeah, it's good, yeah, and I don't know if it.
Speaker 2:what am I making for dinner?
Speaker 1:Nothing, A bowl of cereal. I had a cookie when I got home and then I had some Jelly Bellies. I had. What did I have at?
Speaker 2:work. I had a bagel at work.
Speaker 1:I had had like a lean cuisine steamer and it was not good.
Speaker 2:Sometimes you have to get the basic ones. It was like 240 calories, that's all, yeah, and there's not a lot of protein in those either. Yeah, I need to get more protein shakes is what I need to do.
Speaker 1:Or the protein.
Speaker 2:More Fairlife, or I get the Wacos yogurt ones.
Speaker 1:Wacos.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's Fairlife. Or I get the Oikos yogurt ones. Oikos, yeah, it's O-I, oh, oikos, I don't know how to say it.
Speaker 1:I'm not Greek, I don't know how to say it. How do you say it, oikos? Oh, you do. I always say Oikos. I have no idea, I only just pronounce the letters. I see.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I have no idea but they make. It's about 20 grams of protein Chobani makes them. They're good too. Chobani is less protein and more money and probably tastes better. I think, these Waco ones, the Fairlife ones, oh, yeah, I love the Fairlife ones.
Speaker 1:I hate you Fairlife. Be nice to your animals. Are they getting better? I don't know, but they did put out a Taylor Swift ad today.
Speaker 2:And it was an orange sparkly cow. I love how all of these people are doing that. Let's segue into the new album.
Speaker 1:I want to, taylor, I want to be you. You're humble, you're kind, you're genuine, you're emotional, you care, you're open, you believe in equality. Yes, and you are such a fucking leader, you know, oh taylor for president.
Speaker 2:Ain't that the truth? Um, I love her, and when people were freaking out about this whole announcement the other day, I was like we all know it's another album. Like I was like maybe it's a documentary about the heiress tour. I I did hear that's happening also I heard that was happening too. So I was like maybe it's that, because I'm like she just had an album out like last April, so but that girl's got a vault of songs.
Speaker 1:So my friend Ed Kelsey told me that Did you go to his partner's funeral? Yes, so he was telling me at the funeral that he said you know, taylor was really busy with the tour and then when she was done with the tour she was in la a lot and he knew she was working. So he didn't know when she was going to come on the podcast and he didn't know when the announcement was going to be made. But he said that he knew she was working on an album and he said that.
Speaker 2:Was this Ed or Jason? This is Ed. Ed said this the dad.
Speaker 1:Wow, Daddy Kelsey. Daddy Kelsey said this. He told me that he's pretty sure that, like everything Taylor does, it will be beautiful.
Speaker 2:Oh, there's nothing that she's done that I'm like. This sucks.
Speaker 1:No, Like my only however, she did say her favorite song yeah was all too well. The 10 minute version oh I hate that version.
Speaker 2:Well, I love it now because it's her favorite I still don't, I, I have, I can't I lose attention my attention span is, my edd is just gone. My my thing with taylor that I respect the most is she's a really good business woman. Yes, when it comes to these albums and these album releases, it's four different cover options, four different vinyl options like and people will spend money, like to get all tomorrow for all of them and have this collection of things and like, is it consumer over?
Speaker 2:Is it overdone? Yeah, absolutely. But make that money, people are willing to spend it. Make that money, I mean, I personally won't.
Speaker 1:The tough thing for me on that is like as a fan who makes $1 a year versus taylor, who makes a billion dollars a year one quadrillion dollars a year basically, yeah it. It's a struggle because I don't have the money to give her, but people like me will find ways to give her the money that we don't have to make her rich, which and her concert cost $1,500 to go to. So I amen for the movie where I could pay $15 and go to to the concert.
Speaker 2:It's one of those things again. We're like there's no logical reason why someone needs to be a billionaire in my head, like there's no there's many logical reasons why I should be a billionaire correct selfishly yes, do I want to have endless amounts of money? Yes, I do. Do you know how many?
Speaker 1:do you have any lives? I would better if I was a billionaire.
Speaker 2:Oh, I know you literally could benefit so many, and she does, she does, so I will give her that she does do a lot, and I think that's the struggle with, no matter who you are or what.
Speaker 1:You are right like people are gonna have more money, but it's the people who don't have any money who are giving you all the money.
Speaker 2:That's just the way that's the way the world is. That's the way, yeah, and it's like circle of life let me ignore my electric bill for the month, so I can buy these two albums or something like that, and I'll deal with the late fees, and I'll deal with that later. Like that, unfortunately, is how a lot of people are living these days.
Speaker 1:Like it's just the fact, yeah, and I'll have to pay $20 to go to the state fair every time. Plus, I have to pay for my kid to go. Oh damn it. Because he told me last year he only wanted to go one time and this year he told me he wanted to go every time. He said he wanted to go with us. Hell no. And I said do you know what we do when we go to the fair? I'm like we drink, we eat, we shop, we shop.
Speaker 1:There's no room for you to take a nap we listen to music, we sing along, we get tattoos, we shop, we eat, we drink, we drink, we judge. Yes, we shop. Yes, we drink, we keep eating. He goes. How do you get home the bus? I go, we take the bus, okay, no, what he's I go number one you're not going to be up at 11 am when we leave no, whatever time whatever time he will not.
Speaker 2:We know that, um, and there's no place for him to take a nap, nope, so he's, I'm always, he's more than welcome to come anywhere, but no, no, no, like mackie, I love you to pieces, but you will not have fun with us and you will make us not have fun.
Speaker 1:Yes, and we will not allow that. Yes, no one is raining on my parade this is what he'll do he'll find a fucking bench, and that doesn't have my name on it and he'll take a nap and be like come pick me up when you're leaving. Basically, I ain't paying 20 bucks for you to come and do that Bring your top boss to the seat. Fuck you. He is going to the food truck festival because he said top boss is always there.
Speaker 1:They are which is great. So you get your top boss at the food truck festival and then I tapas at the food truck festival and then I don't have no yes, no cab fare, no bus fare, no entry fee.
Speaker 2:Oh god, I need to look to see if they've increased the price of the bus.
Speaker 1:Well, six bucks last year it was six bucks. Last year we could just drive farther to like roseville and get on the church bus.
Speaker 2:Oh, that's a good idea. That's what we do. We always get on the church bus. This year we gotta save money. I'll take the church bus. Let's do a free church bus. This year we got to save money. I'll take the six bucks for our parents.
Speaker 1:I got to take advantage of the cult when I can, because I don't believe in the cult but I believe in free busing. I believe in free busing, I agree.
Speaker 2:Do you want a donation? No, I will not donate to you. I'll throw a buck in their bucket, maybe. Speaking of donations, I was like speaking of buckets. No, I do want to talk about my very first psychic experience.
Speaker 1:Oh yes, so I wonder what this has to do with donations, because? And you better make it quick, because you've got nine minutes until the show's over, okay, that's funny, so at this place in downtown Anoka.
Speaker 2:I think it's Divine Intervention. That's funny, so at this place in downtown Anoka, I think it's. Divine Intervention.
Speaker 1:Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, they were going to be in my podcast and backed out. So if you're listening to this Womp womp, so you mean you went somewhere else and like Stillwater.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, you can't see, yeah sure. I got something in my eye. So once a month they do. They have a bunch of different readers tarot cards, reiki, all of these people and they'll do shorter sessions and you pay what you think they deserve or whatever like what you've got out of it. Oh, you pay after.
Speaker 1:Mm-hmm, okay, mm-hmm, yep, you pay after Toying with emotions, that just means they're going to tell you what you want to hear.
Speaker 2:Kind of so a little bit, but also I wasn't as impressed with my experience as I was hoping. So they have all the profiles up and the one that I saw was a psychic reader and in my head I've been really struggling with like not feeling patrick and not feeling like he's been haunting your fucking apartment.
Speaker 1:I don't. What do you want him to do? Rape you. You want to have sleep paralysis.
Speaker 2:I just like it doesn't. I like I know these weird things happen, but like there's like it's still that emotional disconnect of feeling it. And so I was like, ok, I kind of want to just see if I can because we're coming up on the one year anniversary like see if I can kind of tap into something and feel something. And so I picked her Sam did a Reiki experience and she said it was, it was great.
Speaker 1:I don't know anything about that, but I don't really either.
Speaker 2:But so it was like a 15, 20 minute session. So she had asked me you know, what am I looking to get out of this? And I did. You know, I did say I said one of my best friends passed away last year after a really rough battle with cancer. You know, I just really am looking to see like is he here, you know where, you know, kind of that kind of stuff. And so she started by cleansing the room with something and then she Like sage, it wasn't sage, but it was something like sage. And then her way of doing things was she closes her eyes and she has a notebook and she's like I just start to scribble oh, and then I can like that guy on netflix yeah, and I can read my my scribbles, kind of just tell me like what it is, like I interpret it or something.
Speaker 2:Um. So she asked about the. She said the first thing that's coming into play is the disney movie, enchanted. And I was like I think I've seen that maybe once or twice. She's like does that have anything to do with him? And I was like no, he liked disney princesses but like I don't know about that movie in particular. And she's like, well, I think it more is about the premise of the movie, where she was in one life and now she has been transported to a different life and is having to figure out her life all over again in this different world. You know, going from living into this enchanted princess fairy tale world to this real life world as a princess. It's just like so it could be something like that. I was like patrick the princess.
Speaker 2:I mean he was the princess um and I was like, okay, yeah, I could, I could see that. And then we kept talking and she was like I'm getting him like right here on my right side, this, this is the part that you'll, you'll kick, get a kick out of she's like I'm getting.
Speaker 2:I feel like he's right here on my right side, and usually when that happens, when they're on the right side, it means they have more feminine qualities to them. And I was like, well, you know, his favorite color was pink and he loved Taylor Swift and he liked all things pretty, except he didn't like glitter. It was like, so that does kind of fit. How did you not like glitter? Patrick hated glitter, hated it. And so I was like, okay, that kind of that fits, resignates, resignates and stuff, and so it was just.
Speaker 2:Basically, she was saying that like when he was alive, our souls were connected and like they're still connected, but he's wanting me to live my life in a way that he lived his life of just being happy, doing things that make you happy and focusing on that. Because, you know, up until the day he died, he was fighting and he was like I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna do this. Like when he got put on hospice, he's like I'm gonna take college classes and I'm like, realistically, you're not, but sure, keep dreaming, yeah, um, and so just kind of just not caring and just and it's, it's interesting, like I was just describing to her. I'm like this is afterwards, when we're talking, I said after he passed, I just developed it, I don't give a fuck attitude and I just want to do things that make me happy and that's it. And I said that is not something I've ever felt before. That is not me, but I can't explain the switch. That is not me, that and but I can't explain the switch.
Speaker 1:And she's like I, really genuinely believe it's like him telling you from the other side.
Speaker 2:I also believe that I I mean, I don't know. I I genuinely don't know. It was like a 15, 20 minute thing. I was, like, you know, I cried a little bit, but it wasn't as I don't know. I was hoping for more out of it and I think I went in with expectations, and so that's probably why I was a little I think everybody does.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like, especially, like, just kind of, you know, coming up on the one year anniversary of his passing, and I think it's the 14th. Yeah, we're at 11 months exactly today, and so, like it's just, I was hoping for a little bit different, but so I paid her 30 bucks because I was like looking ahead of time like what is the average, like price you pay and stuff. So I was like, well, I'll just do 30, it was, it was fine.
Speaker 1:I you know, I did a psychic reading and, um, I didn't tell her anything. I just like you, let me know who you see, yeah, or what you see, or who presents himself to want to like talk to me or tell you something and let's go from there. And it was interesting. But I think that, like we all want to hear, oh, they miss you, oh, they thought you were great, oh, they're thinking of you, they're with you and that's honestly, since my mom, mom died like I don't think that's what happens. No, I'm discovering that and from my psychic experience I feel like it was crushing at the time, but now I'm happy for it. My mom's not here with me every day making sure that I'm okay. No, because now she's living, she's done suffering. Yep, she's living her life not in pain and she's like kelly.
Speaker 1:I know you got yourself. You're good.
Speaker 2:I'll be around sometime but I'm dancing I'm jamming your lights in your bathroom every once in a while I'm having some coors light.
Speaker 1:When my uncle ted died, my lights in my bathroom flickered all the time and they don't anymore, and I didn't change the light bulbs because he's I think it takes a little bit of time for them to let go, and make sure everyone is okay, but then they're living their own life. Now, yeah, they they're not thinking about you constantly. We're thinking about them way more than they're thinking about us?
Speaker 2:yeah, absolutely it's okay, it's for a good reason it is as someone who is still new to this whole grieving process and this grieving process. It's hit me a lot harder than I anticipated. We've talked about this offline many times. I didn't expect it to hit me as hard as it did and have such an impact, but I think I was just being naive and trying to protect myself. And I look back and I'm like I just want to feel him and it's like that's not always going to be the case, like that's not always going to be the reality. Like I know, at the end of the day, I got 20 amazing years of friendship with him and that is something I will cherish and I have learned and grown so much in this experience.
Speaker 2:Do I hate that it was because of him dying? I freaking lutely, but at the same time, like I'm starting to love myself more and appreciate myself in a way that he did, and I'm learning that from him and that, to me, is invaluable. So but yeah, and then we went to Urban Wolf. That was delicious. That always looks weird to me. It's fancy.
Speaker 2:I had this like p to Urban Wolf.
Speaker 1:That was delicious. That always looks weird to me.
Speaker 2:It's fancy. I had this like pesto grilled cheese. It was good. Okay, they have this dill pickle pasta salad. That's delicious, but yeah, they're fancy.
Speaker 1:Thank you for listening to another episode of On Our Best Behavior. Emily, I gave you an extra 15 seconds.
Speaker 2:Thank you, bye, bye.
